A lot is written about our relationships with other people and how important they are to our health and well-being. Backed up by science and research what they state is the better your relationships with other people, the better your life will be.
Now whilst I agree with this, I also believe that the most important relationship you will ever have is the relationship you have with yourself.
Why? Because the person you spend the most time with is you. The person you listen to the most is you. And the way you feel about yourself, has the most direct influence on how you feel about your life.
In fact, I believe that the lens through which you view your world is directly shaped by the lens through which you view yourself. And the way you view yourself is completely dependant upon the the quality of the relationship you have with yourself.
Having a good relationship with yourself means seeing yourself through a lens of optimism and gratitude. It means recognising the good things about yourself, celebrating the uniqueness about you and seeing value in yourself.
If we can look at ourselves through eyes of optimism and gratitude, we start believing that we have the skills and capabilities we need to achieve the goals we want. We start believing that we can be more of what we want to be.
If we look at ourself through the eyes of scarcity and suffering; I’m not good enough, rich enough, pretty enough or successful enough we start to doubt ourselves and begin focussing more on what could go wrong, rather than what can go right!
Overcoming stress, anxiety and the enormous pressures associated with living in today's world, on top of that voice in your head that keeps telling you that you're not good enough, is as simple as one thing;
You need to change the lens through which you view your world.
But to do that, you need to change the lens through which you view yourself and you need to change the relationship you have with yourself.
And doing that means changing your behaviours, the way you think and what you believe about yourself.
When we start treating ourselves as our most important friend and change the way we speak to ourself, the way we treat ourself and the beliefs we hold about what is possible for our lives, the sooner we start improving the relationship we have with ourself . And when this happens, we start to create a better life for ourself.
So what are the things we can do to build that better relationship with ourselves? This list is a good start.
Be kind to yourself
Be patient with yourself
Be your loudest cheer leader
Write down the things that make you special
Eat better food
Exercise and move everyday
Get better sleep
Start planning for success
Build healthy daily practises
Work hard
Plan hard
Build better boundaries
Be curious
More tonic, less toxic
Now I’m not saying that our relationships with others aren't critical to our lives' quality and richness, because they.
The most important thing to understand about your relationships, is that unless you first change the relationship you have with yourself, you're never going to truly realise your hopes, dreams and aspirations.
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